For those of you that saw my twitter tirade yesterday, I apologise. For someone pretty small-fry in the blogging/vlogging world it really gets my goat how many people truly hate me. Of course I'm assuming this is several people and not just one with a serious vendetta. I can ignore most things but when my parenting is called in to question it proves more difficult. I could accept people thinking I'm talentless and unattractive.. that's fine these are fair opinions but it seems these hate mongers stalk my every move just to criticise. I have been here before but for almost a year it seemed to completely vanish. The haters had moved on.. fantastic. I told myself if the same ever happened again would rise above it and not "give them what they want" (an argument). Of course in reality it's very difficult to mask your emotions and my feelings were hurt. I have had this my whole life, I was not the popular kid at school, I was bullied throughout. I had friends and wasn't a loner type but certain girls always went after me, I never understood it. You get the comments "they're just jealous" but they really don't help, it doesn't make it go away. When you leave school you realise you don't have to put up with that crap in the real world and I suppose when these girls found me in later life I want to defend myself like I never did back then.
But I shan't. I shall draw a line here and hope never to speak of it again. I have read on that site terrible things about others, far, far worse than have been written about me and unless I intend to pack it all in now I'm going to have to toughen up. Yes it's horrible but what they say doesn't really have anything to do with me, it says a lot more about them and they have to live with who they are.
When people contact me and ask "do you think I should start a YouTube channel" I would like to be able to encourage them, it's a great hobby and I've met some lovely people through it but you have to have a thick skin. I don't know if my teenage self could have handled it. At nearly 26 it's still not great.
Start a blog! The blogging community is on the whole 100% more supportive that the YouTube community. At the end of the day the video haters are no doubt illiterate morons that can't read blogs.. that's why you see so few trolls around here!
Miss BB
OMG what has happened.... Some ppl.. Chin up!! xx
ReplyDeleteYour blog and channel is rapidly becoming one of my favourites.
ReplyDeleteI won't say ignore them, but just bear in mind that some people are inherently EVIL. They know no different.
Keep up the fab work for the people who appreciate it!
Jojo x
Hi Khila, I have just done a blog post of my fav bloggers of 2011 and I have named your blog with a link, I hope you don't mind... You are a fab blogger and the haters well pfft to them!! xx
ReplyDelete"Illiterate morons" is what you have to remind yourself of when you read their crap! xxx
ReplyDeleteLove reading your blog, always look forward to it. I'm sorry to hear about the rubbish people are saying. "That Site" is just petty, petty people. I actually feel sorry for them, that they have so little to fill their time they resort to that. Pathetic if you ask me.
ReplyDeleteTaking the high road is all good and well but no one could fault you for defending yourself, especially regarding your children.
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I spoke to you on twitter yesterday and read those hurtful comments. It really did upset me, for one that 'adults' could be so cruel, and not just cruel but damn right nasty and trying to target you in all ways to findf your weak spot. they knew you had toughened up so they target your parenting, something we all have a weak spot about has parents. But let me tell you rise above it because not everyone thinks that...i will be honest with you...i watched all your vlogmas and i was in awe of you, i so wished i could be like you when i had my 2nd baby. I was just like wow, and she's coping with a baby with acid reflux etc. I would have a melt down. I have being so worried that you are going to leave and just delete it all. I have followed you for a long time and would hate to have to say goodbye now. I promise you have far more fans than haters. Keep smilin hun,, i really know its hard and nothin
ReplyDeleteHey, the first time I saw that site I was googling bloggers and to say I was shocked when I saw the vile these people were spewing out there hateful mouths was an understatement. I remember reading the most pathetic things about kandee Johnson, a whole thread on her eyebrows! I mean come on who has time to sit and write this crappy??!! Or even want to?!?! I don't know if I could cope with reading crappy like that about myself if I'm honest with you. I really hope those morons don't spoil it for us people who actually look foward to watching your videos, vlogs and reading your blogs by making you quit as that would be a real shame. Really hope you do carry on with it all as I for one would miss you if you left. Jeannine (jsterorange) xx
ReplyDelete"What they say doesn't really have anything to do with me, it says a lot more about them" - you are so right with this. Your Youtube channel and blog were amongst the first that really got me into the whole beauty blogging thing and I've always valued your opinion.
ReplyDeleteWe've all stumbled upon blogs or channels we couldn't identify with, or didn't like as much as others, but so what? You don't read it and you move on with your life. It's really sad that there are people who get some kind of self-validation by trolling others. I almost (almost!!) feel sorry for them. I know it's easier said than done, but in the end these people really aren't worth your time.
Don't give up, I love your blog... screw em, they just gutless wonders who find it easier to be critical of others then lead or do themselves. Keep up the good work...
ReplyDeleteThanks All! I'm not quitting just yet but was so frustrated by the whole thing needed to get out one final rant. Had my 8 week post natal check today and was asked how my mood was.. made me realise how dangerous it is to personally attack someone currently susceptible to depression. It's common knowledge I just had a baby.. how dare they be so cavalier with peoples feelings? It sickens me!
ReplyDeleteI guess I should be thankful they're not calling me fat.. but I'm sure that will come next.
I just want to say I love your blog :D Anytime you try to do something good or fun some idiot will try to ruin it becausse they're idiots! Ask everyone you know with a blog (or just everyone) and they'll have a pile of similar stories but remember you have a blog because you like blogging and I like reading it! so if them being stupid makes you want to stop then me loving it will make you want to continue? I hope so! more nail polish! more make up! more reviews! :D
ReplyDeleteYou are an amazing mom and b/vlogger, and no one can tell you differently. As someone who as been picked on forever, I know it doesn't really get any easier and platitudes don't help. But just remember what support you have, and that you do your channel and blog for YOU. You aren't out there to please anyone, you enjoy what you do. A few catty b***** can't stop the great beauty guru we all love! :)
ReplyDeleteLove the bit about illiterate Morons. you need to think that of the thousands that love you, only a handful hate you. I imagine they are disgusting Mongs who sit at the computer all day looking to put people down to make their hideous selves feel better. I saw one guy write a horrible comment on someone’s so I looked at his channel and he sits and writes the same stuff on loads. they have problems. you are great, the 1,657 people on your blog love you and the 12,000 on YouTube love you, just ignore those twats. or better yet let all of us know and we can hate on them x
ReplyDeleteIt never ceases to amaze me how unsupportive women can be to each other.
ReplyDeleteI suspect many of these so called "trolls" are very young, in which case I could be old enough to be their mother!! The disrespect they show others is appalling, but what is worse is their lack of "SELF" respect.
Much love to you, your family and your great blogs and b*llocks to the rest :D xxxx
your amazing and i miss your daily vlogs your an inspiration and your on here to help people like me and others learn from you, your amazing dont listen to the morons, your a great mother/parent and a great youtuber and are in my favourites so keep going and having a baby and doing the video's is hard and you still get them up for us thankyou for being sooooo capable you manage sooooo well <3 jo x x
ReplyDeletethese people clearly have3 nothing better to do with their time... i love your blog obviously :D
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Khila, im glad to hear your not gonna let these b####%%s grind you down, keep your head up, your beautiful, funny, a fantastic mother and friend and going to be a beautiful bride. Whst have these sad , sickos got? Zilch xxx
ReplyDeleteHey - i follow your vids and think theyre really helpful and informative (if a little dangerous since im spending loads on your recommendations!) i think its great that your making vids whilst your off and those people really just have nothing better to do, unfortunately those of us who probably do read and enjoy your blog probably just dont comment as much as we should. whilst these pathetic people with nothing to do sit and make up crap all day. Chin up and keep making fantastic posts and vids
ReplyDeleteJulie x
I can't believe that some people get their kicks out of writing nasty comments. The probably make a hoppy out of writing this shit. I hope it doesn't make you quit. I have really enjoyed watching your videos and reading your blog. I can relate to you a lot more that some of the other bloggers as our lifestyles are very similar. You must not listen to these comments because these people are the scum of the earth.
ReplyDeleteI wanted to do my own videos for a while but was put off because of my size. Used to be size 8 but after each of my pregnancys i put on weight and never lost it. I think you look fantastic after having Milo. He is such a cutie. My youngest who is 5 loves Ella. Everytime he sees me watching one of your videos he asks if Ella's in it...sweet.
I'm always interested to see what you have been up to and usually watch with my teenage daughter. She thinks you're great too.
I don't always comment on your videos but from now on I'll try to. Positive comment is what you need to chase these haters from your page.
Please don't take any notice of these 'professional' haters they are not worth it.
Hugz
Emma xx